I have said all the words you have and more, and know all the statistics by heart. I've been there and you're speaking to the choir but, this is a long drawn out and now getting messy situation. I'm not trashing the technology. I DO think that GM is hedging its bets and not communicating clearly on the situation and rationales. There are MANY that believe GM has promised to replace their batteries and the fringe benefits that go with it. That may backfire.Remember only 13 Bolts have caught fire out of 140,000 being driven and charged to all sorts of conditions so the chances of your Bolt having the problem is very small. They initially reduced charging levels to take that down even further. Now they have more sophisticated software so you can safely park then in your garage until battery is replaced (although battery is still up in the air somewhat it seems). Very small chance anything will happen. Hyundai's ICE where bursting into flames with millions being recalled and it hardly made the news (although there was security footage on one bursting into flames unattended in an underground parking lot. If you need the full range, use it. There's a greater chance it's going to get totaled in a traffic accident than there is it is going to burst into flames. The problem wasn't one but two faults being present to possibly cause a problem and it wasn't a design fault, it was a manufacturing fault.
If you are teetering on range limits in cold weather, then it's not the right car for you, you may need a 300+ range EV, not a 250 mile range EV.
The average a car is driven per day is 33 miles. The Bolt exceeds that by over 7 times. It's not a long distance, interstate cruiser (it only uses a 50Kwh charger, higher is a waste of technology). Porsche has determined a optimal range is 300 to 350 mile range car as most of the time you are dragging around and paying for) a battery you seldom use. For those that do need the range, travelling sales people (do they still have those) the Chinese have a 600+ mile car out. Till then we have the new driving paradigm of knowing (or being able to find out) where the chargers are.
In short, I would charge the car to full when you need it and not worry about it. Houses burn down or explode all the time but we still live in them.
But your claim that "GM now has sophisticated software so you can ............." has been used once already. It has to be proven. Right now the roll out is identical to the last software 'fix', meaning it has to work or it's curtains for the Bolt architecture for those already built.
As for the suitability of the Bolt, it was the right EV, until it wasn't. I've owned/used every kind of car and heavy machinery and essentially made a living understanding what you can and can't do under varying conditions, so I trust my judgment and experience.